Seeking Your Insight: Things that Work for Mamas and Babies
I still don’t quite grasp why no one told me how difficult it would be to have a baby. I guess it’s not cool to throw a bunch of negative comments at a soon-to-be mom, especially when she’s sportin’ that mid-maternity glow and all. Yet, someone could have at least hinted that it wouldn’t all be a joyride, that I’d be treading water sometimes, only to barely keep afloat. I think the lack of forewarning may have made the whole thing even harder on me—because my expectations were completely unrealistic.
Don’t get me wrong—motherhood is a wonderful thing. I love my son more than I’ve ever loved anything or anyone in the over three decades I’ve been alive and able to love. There are times when I’m just basking in all the glories of having a little guy. However, I’ve found myself struggling with the challenges of parenting equally as much. And, for this reason, I made a promise to myself that I wouldn’t be one of those moms who pretended to the pregos out there that having a kid was all fun and games.
When I talk to a pregnant mom, I tell it like it is. I confer my congrats, compliment the cute belly, and tell her that being a mother is one of those marvelous miracles you simply can’t understand fully until you’ve done it. But, I don’t stop there. I make sure to mention that it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done, and that I wished someone had told me that—the way I’m telling her.
And, this leads me to the topic of my next couple of posts…
Jacob entered his second year of life a couple of weeks ago. Frankly, part of me feels very proud (and somewhat surprised) that we made it through the first year without any major crises. Sure, we had our moments, but mostly we stayed strong. I’m proud of us both for that…but it wasn’t without trial and error.
As I have a few friends who read this blog, and who are expecting, or just a few weeks or months into their new mommy titles, I thought it might be worth sharing some of the things that made my life easier during baby’s first year of life. Also, if you’re a mom, I think they’d appreciate it if you share your secrets. Because although they could leaf through hundreds of pages of baby/parenting books or scan through websites on the topic, a bulleted list from a few friendly moms is so much easier. I’m starting the list now. If you have any ideas or suggestions for products, ways of taking care of baby or mama, etc., please send them my way.
Now that I’m a mom, practically all I hear are complaints. No one holds back on sharing the pains of parenting once the bun has officially exited the oven. How helpful is that? Don’t we want to know if we’re coming up on a challenge well in advance, so we can step into full battle gear?! I know I do. Calling all mamas: send me your thoughts. It’s time to help a mama out.