Day 3 on prioritizing: goals.
Let’s take a step back here. I think it’s important to do that whenever I’m thinking really hard about something—take a step away, look at the big picture, remind myself of what I’m really aiming to achieve. So, what’s our aim?
We’re trying to answer a big question: what is the best way for moms (each of us individually) to spend the time that’s left over after we’ve taken care of the necessities (work, basic parenting duties, etc.)? I think the way many of us would handle this question at first glance would be to reply immediately, “what time, you crazy person?!” and then return to the hustle bustle. However, even if it’s only ten minutes here, half an hour there, most of us have some free time. And, because that bit of time is so precious, we should put a good amount of thought and care into what we decide to do with it.
To prioritize our time, we are working toward identifying: our broad values and the goals that align with these values, what activities will bring us closer to accomplishing those goals, and where in our busy lives these activities fit in.
Phew…okay, back on track. So, last time, we made a list of our values. Now, it’s time to think about goals. But, one more thing before we dive in: let’s think about how we will define goals. How ambitious should we be here? Are we talking short-term or long-term goals? Should we keep goals general or should we make them specific? For me personally, I’ve found that goals are most helpful when they:
- are ambitious, but realistic (achievable)
- focus on a specific time frame
- clearly state what needs to change (or be maintained) and how
So, for instance, instead of “I want to be healthier,” I might say something like “Prepare a meal using natural, fresh ingredients at least twice a week” or “Start exercising for 30 minutes at least three times per week.” Instead of “I want to be more organized,” my goal might be “Go through all my random papers once per week and file or toss.” Using the criteria above, some goals may actually be activities. Again, I think that’s just fine.
Alright, already! Let’s do it! Pull out your values lists, and let’s go!
|Kids’ Health and Development||
|Relationships with Family||
|Relationships with Friends||
|Maintaining Sanity: Being Happy||
|Learning and Growing: Trying New Things||
|Becoming a Better Person: Learning from Mistakes||
|Integrity: Being True to Myself||
|Making a Positive Difference in Others’ Lives||
|Keeping Life (House, Car, Office) Clean and Clutter-Free.||
I’m not sure how comprehensive this list is for me, but the reflection alone was helpful. I’m going to print mine with some extra space so I can add to it as things pop up.
What about you? Is anyone out there? If so, how is this process working for you?